If I had all the money in the world
January 20, 2010

If I ruled the world.

… to give to my family.

I would buy my son a house for us to share with that “liiiiittle tiny” dog he wants. I would make sure the house included his own room, playroom, bunk beds, and of course a yard to play in.

I would buy my mom out of debt.

I would buy my dad all the land he wants in Alaska and enough supplies to build his very own log cabin. I would also buy him that Harley he’s dreamed of his whole life.

I would pay off my brothers mortgage.

I would pay the Army enough money to get my sister Lacie and her husband Bene (and Baby Riley) stationed here in Washington.

I would buy my grandma another “once in a lifetime” trip. Maybe back to Africa, or where ever else she wants to visit.

I would buy my grandpa a lifetime membership to his golf course and a chance to pick up whichever new clubs he thinks he needs right now. My Grandma knows what that means. 😉

I would buy my other grandparents whatever they wanted, to make them move back to Washington.

And if there was a way, for my Aunt Joey (and all of us who miss her), I would bargain with God and get my Grandma Ginny back.

What you buy for your family members?

What you buy for your friends?

What would you buy for yourself?

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Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around.
January 17, 2010

Carpe diem

There are three kinds of people in life:

→ One. The people that make things happen.

→ Two. The people that watch things happen.

→ Three. The people that think WTF happened?!

I’d like to say that I’m number one (in more ways than one… pun intended), but I really can’t say for certain where I fit in the majority. I am a get-what-I-want-type-of-gal, and if I can’t have it now you can bet your ass I’ll find a way to get it… eventually. I’m also a person that sits back and watches, waking up the next morning kicking myself for not taking that chance. Finally, I must admit there have been times in my not-so-distant-past where I find myself thinking, or even saying out loud, WTF just happened?!

I think the majority of people reading this can place yourself in all of the categories listed above… at least at one point in your life.

But that’s not the question I want to ask you, the question you should ask yourself is:

What kind are you today?

I’m just sayin’
October 10, 2009

I found this somewhere, maybe I got it in an email… I have no idea. But I do know this  article/post/email/whatever is very inspiring to me and I want to share it with you. If anyone knows where this originated from or who wrote it please comment with any information because I’d love to know. For now though, just read on.

Before you leave or look away…I encourage you to read this whole thing. I know its very long, but I think its important to read.

A time comes in your life when you finally get it … when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out ENOUGH!!!

Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening. You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change…or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that you are neither Prince Charming or Cinderella and that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions. And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties…and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche.

And you begin to sift through all the junk you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you should do for a living, how much money you should make, what you should drive, how and where you should live, who you should marry, the importance of having and raising children, and what you owe your parents, family, and friends.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with…and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake. Then you learn about love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. And you learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK…and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things you want…and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won’t settle for less. And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul.

So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve…and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone…and that it’s OK to risk asking for help. You learn the only thing you must truly fear is the greatest robber baron of all: FEAR itself.

You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.

On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You learn that no one is punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It’s just life happening.

And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state – the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.

I couldn’t have said it better myself.

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